I Can't Please my Girlfriend In Bed – Even With Oral Sex

I Can't Please my Girlfriend In Bed – Even With Oral Sex

We have been together for two years and we have regular sex but it leaves us both frustrated. I don’t think our relationship can take much more.

 

I am 32 and my girlfriend is 28. We have been together almost two years and I can’t seem to please her sexually. I never had problems in the past with other women so I don’t understand what is going on. We have sex three or four times a week but I can’t seem to get her to climax. I love her and want to be with her but I don’t know what to do. Even during oral sex I can’t seem to get her to get it. I’m losing self-esteem and feel that the relationship can’t handle this much longer.

It’s not that your relationship cannot handle the problem in your sex life – it’s the other way around. The power struggle or lack of trust and support between you is being expressed in your bedroom, and without conflict resolution you will never have pleasurable, stress-free sex together. Start to talk about the non-sexual feelings you have during love-making – your sense of wanting to please her but not being good enough, and your non-sexual frustration. Try to encourage her to become a true partner in terms of increasing your mutual sexual pleasure rather than being an expectant critic. And let go of being judgmental – both of your partner and of yourself.

 

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